This month we learned the power of using I Statements to communicate. When explaining a situation, there are usually two types of statements; You Statements and I Statements. You statements typically sound like blaming. I statements sound like an explanation of events and are more neutral. ​

​

The trick with using I Statements is coming up with a good one. They are usually longer and more in-depth than  You Statements. If someone is kicking a desk, you may be tempted to blurt out "You need to stop," instead of explain how the situation is frustrating. You Statements are quick and usually at the forefront of our minds. I Statements require more thought and planning.

​

Our Self-Regulating skills can help us cool down in the moment and come up with a good I statements. Another great tactic is leaving the situation and asking a friend, or adult for help with creating a great I Statement.

​

I Statements can be hard. The more we practice the better communicators we become. Your school counselor can help. Give him a visit if you are stuck and need a great I Statement.